How to Write Your Most Meaningful Birth Story: Ask Your Mom

When you think of birth, what’s the first thought that comes in to your mind?

Often, we go to the negative: painful, scary, I can’t.

Of course when we notice these thoughts, we realize that they are just limiting beliefs, and not necessarily truth.

Where do these limiting beliefs come from?

Media portrays birth as a traumatic because otherwise it would be really boring. Watching someone breathe through contractions is like watching paint dry.

Friends might share worst case scenarios because they think they are helping.

And many of our assumptions about birth start from stories we’ve heard from our moms.

Sometimes, it’s just an attitude that you’ve sensed about it.

If possible, it can be helpful to have a conversation with your mom about when she was birthing you.

If you can do this, listen for ways you may have translated HER story into YOURS.

It can also shed some light on how you might want to respond to your own labor.

Here are a few good questions to ask:

· How did labor start?

· How did you know I was about to be born?

· How long did it last?

· What was most surprising to you about birth?

· Were there any interventions (induction, medication, forceps, vacuum)?

· Did you feel like you were part of the decisions that were made?

· How did you ultimately feel about giving birth to me?

This conversation helped me get super clear that my story was not my mom’s.

For instance, throughout my life, I had heard that her epidural was the greatest moment of her life.

From this, I derived that the pain would be unbearable, and I wouldn’t be able to handle it.

I suspected from practicing and teaching prenatal yoga that our bodies are capable of so much more than we think it is, and that I could in fact handle it – with the guidance, support, and tools my mom wasn’t lucky enough to have.

There’s an intelligence in our cells and incredible resources within. We just need a little help finding it.

During my labor I felt this power in me with each contraction. With the help of my doula, I breathed through each one. I knew my body was made to do this.

And just to be clear, I have nothing against epidurals!

After many hours of back labor (searing pain from baby’s spine pressing on mine), I asked for an epidural to ease the pain. It was not the best moment of my life, and yet it did help move things forward because it was so well-timed and I got little enough to still be able to move.

I was glad that I chose an epidural at just the right moment in MY birth story, rather than moving into it with false assumptions that I would need it.

What will your birth story be?

We’d love to help you create a beautiful birth story at Ma Yoga. We’re a unique, alignment-based hub of online prenatal yoga where you’ll make space, stay strong, relieve aches and pains, and carry baby easily – both inside and out.

We’ll help you create the birth story you want by helping you become the “Ma” you want to be.

In just about every language, “ma” means “mother”.

In Sanskrit, the language of yoga, this little syllable also means the highest, most powerful and wise – like “Ma Kali”, the Mother of all Goddesses.

When you slow down and learn to truly mother yourself with nurturing practices, you can’t help but begin to embody your highest, most powerful, and wise “Ma” Self.

You’ll move away from comparing yourself to others, doubting your own truth, and questioning your abilities – and you’ll start following our “Inner GPS.”

Your journey will feel empowering, transformative, and meaningful to you.

In our live online and recorded prenatal, mom and mom and baby yoga classes, expertly trained birth and postpartum doulas and Certified Ma Yoga Teachers will guide you through simple but transformative actions so you can connect to YOUR truth.

Incorporating Prenatal and Mom and Baby Yoga into your busy day can be the difference between feeling disconnected, depleted, and down, vs. connected, energized and excited about your life – as both a mom and a fulfilled, powerful co-creator.

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