The Why of Mental Freedom | Olver International

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Recently, someone asked what my reasons are for developing Mental Freedom®. I don’t know if I can pinpoint just one—there are many. As so often happens when important things are developed, a whole collision of seemingly meaningless, disconnected events helps make it all happen. The creator’s job is to follow the path the Universe opens, and I haven’t always been good at that. I have seen the path, but fear has sometimes kept me stuck. I’d like to think that is behind me now, but it probably will happen the next time something is placed in front of me that scares the pants off me!

In some ways, my whole life led me to Mental Freedom. It began when a boss with paranoia led me to leave the first job I had out of college. The next one I found just happened to offer training in Choice Theory and Reality Therapy. I was hooked after the first week, but I was a neophyte. I used the ideas in my work with foster kids and their biological and foster parents, but I wasn’t using it at home. I was still nagging my husband and yelling at my kids.

After my husband became sick, I leaned into Choice Theory to help me through that situation. Then, nearly five years later, he died. Choice Theory helped me again.

Later, as I was poorly attempting to single parent two strong-willed teenage boys, I realized I needed to start practicing what I preached to parents at work. I had become, and perhaps I always was, a permissive parent. Since my husband was so strict, I leaned toward permissive, which caused him to move further toward strict and so on. It was a downward spiral. When we had the other to balance ourselves out, it wasn’t too bad—although I wouldn’t call it great parenting. However, after he died, my permissive tendencies weren’t going to raise two responsible young men. I leaned into Choice Theory parenting, and it helped.

Later, my youngest son, Kyle, wanted to enroll in the Army and fight in Iraq. After losing his father, you can imagine how much I didn’t want him to do that. I wanted to forbid it, but I knew Kyle would only wait a week for his 18th birthday and sign up himself, so I took him to the recruiter’s office and signed his life over to the Army. It was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done, but I couldn’t be prouder of him. He served two tours in Iraq, and applying Choice Theory in my life is what helped me survive those tours.

I quit my job of 17 years, moved from northeast Pennsylvania to Chicago’s south suburbs, and started my own business, and Choice Theory helped me again. Later, when I ended an eight-year relationship with someone very important to me, I needed Choice Theory again.

And about six years ago, I was in a hot air balloon accident and broke both my ankles (three bones in the left), which required surgery and quite a bit of hardware. I spend two weeks in a rehab in Arizona, and then there was a wheelchair and a lot of physical therapy before I could walk again. Guess what helped? You got it—Choice Theory.

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